Being a military spouse is unlike any stress I’ve ever known. In the two years VH has been retired, I’ve been able to look back at that time in our lives and marvel that we survived, both individually and as a couple. I was one of the lucky ones, too: my husband was not deployed; he was merely ordered on a regular basis to travel to some pretty damn hostile places where the circumstances prevented us from having any contact until his return. That was enough stress for me, thanks.
As you may recall, VH and I muddled our way through those times. I gritted my teeth and white-knuckled my way through total responsibility for parenting, household management and dealing with hostile Hawaiians. (I still maintain I deserve combat pay for the latter.) A broken leg (the Big-Eyed Boy’s), unexpectedly bounced checks, tropical storms that knocked out electricity for days, impacted wisdom teeth (mine), a slipped disc (mine again), a break-in, two burst water mains and a miscarriage (yep, mine, too) — I dealt with those entirely on my own, without even being able to speak with my husband, the only person who keeps me calm and grounded.
And, as I mentioned, I was one of the lucky ones.
Thank goodness there are now more support options for military spouses. One that’s just gone live: SpouseBuzz, a blog and virtual support group for military spouses. Just in time for Military Spouse Appreciation Day, which is tomorrow.
President Ronald Reagan first proclaimed the Friday before Mother’s Day of each year to be Military Spouse Appreciation Day in 1984 to recognize the many contributions and sacrifices military spouses make every day in support of military members and the nation as a whole. The words in his proclamation could not be truer today:
Throughout the years, as the numbers of our married men and women in uniform have grown and as their military missions have become more complex and dispersed , their spouses have made countless personal sacrifices to support the Armed Forces. In many instances, they subordinated their personal and professional aspirations to the greater benefit of the military families.
If you happen to live in the San Diego area, don’t miss tomorrow’s Spouse Buzz Live event, a day of education, empowerment and entertainment for military spouses.





