Ch-ch-changes!

Ordinarily, I don’t like change. I’m happiest when my life is lived in calm little routines, when spontaneity is sandwiched between predictable things.

For nearly two years, I’ve lived in what would seem on the surface to be a perfectly happy routine: up with my son in the morning, chores done by lunch time, errands after my son’s nap, Hubby home at 6:30, dinner on the table by 7. My social life was limited to nights when the Venomous Hubby brought home work from the office, when I’d wait until my son was in bed then join friends at the local hangout for drinks, conversation, and (often bad) karaoke. Nice, predictable, rarely chaotic. The picture of serenity, eh?

Frankly, it’s driven me damn near insane.

I’m not the kind of gal who does well away from cities and suburbs. I’ve learned that in the past two years living here “in the country” – which is how they describe the area where I live. I miss having more than one restaurant to choose from. I miss sitting at Starbuck’s on Sunday morning and reading the newspaper without a gecko, mouse or cockroach running across my foot. I miss living on a calm street where it’s safe for kids to ride tricycles or play tag. I miss having neighbors who wave at each other as we get our newspapers from our driveways in the morning. Hell, I miss having a driveway!

Since moving to our house here “in the country” I’ve watched my life – and my interests – dwindle. I haven’t gone to a movie since Legally Blonde 2 came out. (Of course, that one was so horrid, I don’t feel I’ve missed much.) I haven’t browsed art galleries or gone antiquing. I gave up trying to garden when high surf wiped out my plants. I don’t know of any book clubs meeting in my area, and the nearest gym is 45-minutes away, as are most churches. My “social life” – such as it is – has consisted of meeting friends at the local bar for a drink or, occasionally, getting together with friends at their house or mine… for a drink. I miss having friends with whom I have more in common than the bottle of vodka we’re splitting.

Fortunately, a whole lot of circumstances collided to make now the ideal time to move. My son will be starting kindergarten soon, so I want to move to a school district where he won’t get beat up for being haole (white), where the teachers don’t speak in a mixture of pidgin and heavily-accented English. I want to move to a neighborhood with sidewalks instead of highway shoulders, where kids can ride their tricycles and play tag, where front yards feature neat landscaping instead of abandoned vehicles guarded by menacing pit bulls. With Hubby’s retirement from the Army looming at the end of the year, now is really the ideal time for a move.

Luckily, the market for home sales is hot here on O’ahu right now. The median house price is nearly twice what we paid for our home two years ago, and we should be able to make at least 80% profit if we sell now. Not shabby, eh?

So. We listed the house for sale yesterday. The first showing is on July 8, and before then we’ll be cleaning, de-cluttering, and cosmetically polishing the place. Meanwhile, I’m spending most afternoons taking the kids for long drives while we hunt for our new house. Truth is, I’ve been doing that secretly for almost a year now and have narrowed down the areas we’re looking at to three quiet suburbs with children of all ages, above-average public schools, and plenty of shops, stores, restaurants and activities less than 10 minutes away. There’s even a Starbuck’s, and I’ve made it a regular stop on our house-hunting trips. Sure, it’s over-priced but I’ve yet to see a mouse or cockroach there.

I have no idea how these developments are going to affect my blogging. No doubt, I’ll be pressed for time over the next couple of weeks as I prepare the house for showings. Afterwards – who knows? I started blogging to break out of the isolation and depression I felt after we moved here. I needed to interact with non-preschoolers, with people who read and care about news and current events, who don’t interpret debate as a breach of manners, who aren’t eager to start throwing punches or pulling knives over differences in opinions. Perhaps, then, it’ll be a good sign if my blogging gets light but regular after we find a new house.

All I know is that I’m seeing light at the end of this long, lonely tunnel. And it just so happens, the light’s coming from Starbuck’s. Ah, to live in civilization again.


18 Responses to “Ch-ch-changes!”
Comment by De Doc
2004-06-14 12:45:29

THAT explains a cryptic comment, t’other day…

OK, got it.

We’ll cross our fingers for you here at Chez Chaos!

 
Comment by Kelley
2004-06-14 12:58:45

you go, girl. civilization awaits you, and if your blogging gets light-to-nonexistant, i’ll know that you’re busy with a real life. a good life, involving neighbors with all their ducks in a row!

 
Comment by Jordana
2004-06-14 13:03:45

Hope all goes well and quickly. The market seems to be hot everywhere and houses sell quickly. Which is good while you’re selling, but can be bad when you are buying.

Good luck and I hope your world opens up in new and exciting ways with the move.

 
Comment by Dave Schuler
2004-06-14 13:44:49

Hope all goes well. But look out for that light at the end of the tunnel—it’s frequently an oncoming train!

 
Comment by Guy S.
2004-06-14 14:12:54

Best of luck in your not too distant change of address.

 
Comment by Madame Butterfly
2004-06-14 15:03:13

I had asked you a question about where you lived, based off of your contract for hosting. Now I know.

I am moving for similar reasons…we live in an area where we no longer feel comfortable…although I must say I am happy being two miles away from a Starbucks. Starbucks is indeed my Mecca. God Bless Howard Schultz!!!!

 
Comment by Gene Bob
2004-06-14 17:09:43

I’ve been on Oahu 8 or 9 times; the last few I was accused of being kamaaina (a native) so I must’ve been doing something right. I did start to notice the sense of isolation .. when you realize that you’re on a 35-mile-across rock in the middle of the ocean. And people still can’t believe that the worst traffic jam I was *ever* in was on Oahu’s north shore (any accident on a 2-lane road can bottle things up for a lonnnnng time). What does all this mean? I think it means “I feel your pain.” :P

-gene

 
Trackback by Mind of Mog
2004-06-15 05:22:51

Reflections On Boredom
The venomous one describes a life more boring than mine. I didn’t think that possible. Oh wait, I did. I don’t go out often although there is lots to do when I do. Mostly, I lay in bed and play on my beloved iBook, by choice as I hate pain with a pas…

 
Comment by twoma3
2004-06-15 06:21:05

Well Kate if you were looking in the neighborhood of 151st and Blackbob in Olathe you would have Starbucks, Super Walmart, Lowes, movie multiplex, schools, Kohls and all the usual suspects for vittles within two miles. On the other hand it is a bit far to the beach and we have these weather thingies called tornadoes. Steaks are good but BBQ KC style is better but no poo poos. The best of luck to you.

 
Comment by mac
2004-06-15 06:53:29

Good luck!! Change is good, I hope it all works out perfectly for you.

 
Comment by Kevin
2004-06-15 09:29:30

Sounds like you’re near the Punalu’u restaurant. It’s a dump, but I love their spicy shrimp. Re: Tab, the commissary in SD sells it, so you might want to check at the commissaries on the island.

 
Comment by Stephen W
2004-06-15 10:43:50

Good luck with the house hunt. If you are still going to be on Oahu youre still in paradise as far as this NZer is concerned.

 
Comment by Teresa
2004-06-15 11:28:39

Wow! Kate you kinda described my life waaaayyy back when my kids were small and I was a stay at home mom (minus the internet!). I was in the burbs, but didn’t have the money to go out and hadn’t been there long enough to make friends. Boring doesn’t begin to describe it.

I hope you are successful at selling your house quickly and finding the place you want with a more citified atmosphere.

We’re very likely going to be moving soon – when my husband gets a job, since there are no jobs for him where we are now. When we move, we want to get closer or in a city with more things to do. The burbs are great for kids, but when the kids are gone – they get boring too.

Anyhow, best, best, and more best of luck to you!

 
2004-06-15 15:22:47

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Comment by mlah
2004-06-16 05:09:21

welcome back kate

 
Comment by Claire
2004-06-16 20:40:58

I have a feeling you’re gonna have fun clearing away all the clutter and organizing your ducks. Glad to hear you’re moving towards what draws you.

Oddly enough, I’m just as excited to be moving in the opposite direction. Don’t care if I never see another Starbucks or shopping center — ever.

 
Comment by Brian
2004-06-19 16:15:00

Best wishes Kate and happy house hunting!

 
2004-07-07 05:11:14

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