Comments on: Sometimes “Sad” Doesn’t Cover It http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/ Mid-life crisis, motherhood and martinis Sat, 20 Mar 2010 00:46:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Venomous Kate http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/comment-page-1/#comment-90717 Venomous Kate Wed, 20 Aug 2008 00:41:54 +0000 http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/#comment-90717 Thank you so much, Bridget. The good news is that my father-in-law's hemoglobin counts are up, which signals that his body is fighting the cancer. We're not deluding ourselves into believing that he'll recover from it, but at this point every additional day is a precious gift from God and for each moment of each day we are truly grateful. Venomous Kates last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/electricvenom/djorlo/~3/369391353/" rel="nofollow">Behind On My Book Reading</a> Thank you so much, Bridget. The good news is that my father-in-law’s hemoglobin counts are up, which signals that his body is fighting the cancer. We’re not deluding ourselves into believing that he’ll recover from it, but at this point every additional day is a precious gift from God and for each moment of each day we are truly grateful.

Venomous Kates last blog post..Behind On My Book Reading

]]> By: Bridget http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/comment-page-1/#comment-90705 Bridget Tue, 19 Aug 2008 17:51:14 +0000 http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/#comment-90705 I'm so sorry to hear that all of this is going on and the emotional pain that you and your family is going through breaks my heart. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. I’m so sorry to hear that all of this is going on and the emotional pain that you and your family is going through breaks my heart. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

]]> By: Venomous Kate http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/comment-page-1/#comment-90601 Venomous Kate Wed, 13 Aug 2008 23:50:12 +0000 http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/#comment-90601 Thanks, everyone. If you've commented on this entry then please know I'm writing back to you individually. Y'all took time out of your lives when mine was rough, and I want to make sure to thank each and every one of you. It'll take time, but I *will* work through all of your wonderful emails, letters and phone messages. My Venomites rawk. Thank you for blessing my life with yours. Thanks, everyone. If you’ve commented on this entry then please know I’m writing back to you individually. Y’all took time out of your lives when mine was rough, and I want to make sure to thank each and every one of you. It’ll take time, but I *will* work through all of your wonderful emails, letters and phone messages.

My Venomites rawk. Thank you for blessing my life with yours.

]]> By: Karen http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/comment-page-1/#comment-90580 Karen Tue, 12 Aug 2008 03:07:03 +0000 http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/#comment-90580 Kate, I am sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. My prayers are with you and your family. Kate, I am sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. My prayers are with you and your family.

]]> By: lifepundit http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/comment-page-1/#comment-90579 lifepundit Tue, 12 Aug 2008 02:24:33 +0000 http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/#comment-90579 Your post shows your strength, you wonderful honesty and deep love for your mother, your FIL, your husband and the rest of your family. Show your love for yourself by taking care of you. I'm so very sorry you have such a heavy load to carry. I'm glad you're taking time off. I hope you'll call in hospice. They've made all the difference for me with my parents. Hospice has shown me how to see things differently, and to understand what it is that my parents need at this stage. You and your family are in my prayers. You matter, all of you matter. lifepundits last blog post..<a href="http://www.lifepundit.net/2008/08/blogging-is-too.html" rel="nofollow">Blogging is Too Much Fun to be Permissable Procrastination Tool</a> Your post shows your strength, you wonderful honesty and deep love for your mother, your FIL, your husband and the rest of your family. Show your love for yourself by taking care of you.

I’m so very sorry you have such a heavy load to carry. I’m glad you’re taking time off.

I hope you’ll call in hospice. They’ve made all the difference for me with my parents. Hospice has shown me how to see things differently, and to understand what it is that my parents need at this stage.

You and your family are in my prayers. You matter, all of you matter.

lifepundits last blog post..Blogging is Too Much Fun to be Permissable Procrastination Tool

]]> By: Dee http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/comment-page-1/#comment-90561 Dee Thu, 07 Aug 2008 15:15:24 +0000 http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/#comment-90561 I just came in here but I too have to join with all of Kate's friends in wishing you well dear Kate and praying for you and your family. Dees last blog post..<a href="http://ceomum.blogspot.com/2008/08/one-big-mac-quick.html" rel="nofollow">One Big Mac ...Quick!</a> I just came in here but I too have to join with all of Kate’s friends in wishing you well dear Kate and praying for you and your family.

Dees last blog post..One Big Mac …Quick!

]]> By: leelu http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/comment-page-1/#comment-90546 leelu Tue, 05 Aug 2008 17:35:23 +0000 http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/#comment-90546 Kate: The only words I could use to explain to people my experience when my mom died were "bone crushing". But I can't imagine the weight you are carrying with all you have described here. Quadruple tough. Seek solace and support for yourself with friends and loved ones who aren't directly involved. They will help re-charge your batteries and help strengthen you. Take time now to begin grieving for the dying and for yourself, that is, your losses. The hardest part for you may be finding it in yourself to give them permission to go. You may actually have to tell the that it's OK. I had to. It was actually easy, given mom's condition. It was also freeing, not only for her, but for me as well. You will be all right. You <b>are</b> all right. Even in the black, bone-crushing numbness, put one foot in front of the other and keep going. Love your family, love yourself. You can do this, and you will. My love and prayers are with you... Kate:

The only words I could use to explain to people my experience when my mom died were “bone crushing”. But I can’t imagine the weight you are carrying with all you have described here. Quadruple tough.

Seek solace and support for yourself with friends and loved ones who aren’t directly involved. They will help re-charge your batteries and help strengthen you. Take time now to begin grieving for the dying and for yourself, that is, your losses.

The hardest part for you may be finding it in yourself to give them permission to go. You may actually have to tell the that it’s OK. I had to. It was actually easy, given mom’s condition. It was also freeing, not only for her, but for me as well.

You will be all right. You are all right. Even in the black, bone-crushing numbness, put one foot in front of the other and keep going. Love your family, love yourself. You can do this, and you will.

My love and prayers are with you…

]]> By: Teresa http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/comment-page-1/#comment-90545 Teresa Tue, 05 Aug 2008 16:15:43 +0000 http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/#comment-90545 As everyone else, I'm so sorry it's all hitting at once. One day at a time... even one moment at a time is all we can do. I think Joan said it best "if you can't be strong just float". Teresas last blog post..<a href="http://technicalities.mu.nu/tornado_warning_in_chicago" rel="nofollow">Tornado Warning In Chicago</a> As everyone else, I’m so sorry it’s all hitting at once. One day at a time… even one moment at a time is all we can do. I think Joan said it best “if you can’t be strong just float”.

Teresas last blog post..Tornado Warning In Chicago

]]> By: D.C. Thornton http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/comment-page-1/#comment-90538 D.C. Thornton Tue, 05 Aug 2008 03:37:36 +0000 http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/#comment-90538 My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.

]]> By: rammer http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/comment-page-1/#comment-90537 rammer Tue, 05 Aug 2008 03:14:49 +0000 http://www.electricvenom.com/my-venomous-life/sometimes-sad-doesnt-cover-it/#comment-90537 Oh, Kate! I am so sorry for you, your boy, and your family. I wish you all the best. I've been through some of this and can only talk about things that supported me in those times. Sometimes focusing on just one thing at a time can help. Export all the things from your brain to a list. The list will remember them all. Then just do one thing. They will all be on the list when you get around to picking out another thing to do. Also, be sure to hug someone every day. Tell them why you care about them. They and you will be surprised. Oh, Kate! I am so sorry for you, your boy, and your family. I wish you all the best.

I’ve been through some of this and can only talk about things that supported me in those times.

Sometimes focusing on just one thing at a time can help. Export all the things from your brain to a list. The list will remember them all. Then just do one thing. They will all be on the list when you get around to picking out another thing to do.

Also, be sure to hug someone every day. Tell them why you care about them. They and you will be surprised.

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