Comments on: What Would YOU Do?

By: Colleen

Colleen — Sat, 08 Sep 2007 22:55:16 +0000

I could deal with being on my own for a year or more, but I wouldn’t want my husband in the middle east. Sure, he could be injured (or worse) here in a car wreck, bombing, etc, but there are too many crazy things going on there every day, as compared to my reasonably safe corner of the world. Suicide bombings and all of that would make me ask him to stay home.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 06 Sep 2007 04:09:51 +0000

My hubby could go work for the company his dad works for (and this is here and no time away) and he has told him no. He would be expected to work 60 – 80 hours a week. My response to all of this is that if he took the job then I was moving back by my family and I was taking the kids.

Money is not everything. Look at all the hollywood celebrities whose lives are a mess, it definately does not buy happiness. Like everyone else said – you can’t get that time back.

By: Ms. Elenaeous

Ms. Elenaeous — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 22:32:27 +0000

Nope, not even for a million bucks, not even if it was in Paris. You can always get more money, but you just can’t buy back time.

By: Ed

Ed — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 15:07:20 +0000

Is there any chance you and your son could go to Afghanistan with him?

By: Rose

Rose — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 13:21:24 +0000

Then again, there are lots of military kids who deal with it and their Daddy’s aren’t getting huge increases in pay as part of the package.

Been there, done that, with a child who was and is emotionally secure and accustomed to frequent absences.

Still not worth it, at any price. You can never buy that year or two back.

By: Tari

Tari — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 04:34:56 +0000

I asked my husband tonight and he said “absolutely not – not in a million years no no no no no”. So I guess even though I would agree to it he wouldn’t risk his butt for money. Well, I’ve known him 18 years – I guess I could have predicted that one! Maybe that was why is was so easy for me to say “sure!”

By: agent bedhead

agent bedhead — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 03:44:59 +0000

Nooooo freaking way would I go for this. The money just isn’t worth it for that sort of ordeal. Besides, they pay people a ton of money to go over there for a reason – it’s damn dangerous.

By: Venomous Kate

Venomous Kate — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 03:03:19 +0000

We’ve just spent 4 hours talking about it, examining it from every angle, and weighing the pros and cons. You’re both right: the fact that he turned it down was quite significant.

More on that in a bit. I’ve got some “I love you!s” to convey.

By: Jae

Jae — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 02:44:00 +0000

Thinking about it more, I agree with wg that him turning it down before telling you is significant.

As for location – yeah, it’s dangerous. But as you said, there’s risk everywhere. And despite the numbers reported, there are still more survivors than not. If I could handle being a single mom of four for that time and having the communication options you have – I’d say go for it. But it sounds like he made up his mind before any of that.

By: wg

wg — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 02:06:04 +0000

I think you’ve accurately captured the pros and cons of it, Kate; one thing I’d be keeping in mind, though, is that he turned it down before he told you about it the first time.

As for me? Yes, I would probably do it…but it would require a LOT of forethought and support from family for both of us.